I’ve heard so many people say this one phrase over and over: “I’m not here to make friends.” They’re not here to make friends at work. Why? They’re here to do their job. This is a job. It’s a paycheck. Blah, blah, blah. And those same people are often the ones, consequently, who don’t like small chat, don’t care about the guy across the office that has nothing to do with his job function, don’t care whose toes they step on, if people like how they did something or not, etc. “Why should I care what other people think?”
You should care a LOT about what people think. And you might want to change your attitude about “making friends.” Think about the golden rule of sales: we buy from people we know, like and trust. The concept of buying doesn’t just apply to salespeople, it applies to everyone. Every one of us is in sales whether we like it or not! We have things we need to persuade people about every day!! Got an idea? Wonder why no one likes it? Wonder why no one’s listening to you? Could be your persuasion skills, true. But it could also be the fact that you haven’t taken the time to build the relationships with people that would cause them to “know, like and trust” you.
Relationships are big. People don’t have to be your best friends at work and know ALL your business, but doesn’t it help to be friendly? To get to know people a bit outside of what they can do for you? Water cooler talk – matters. Small talk before and after a meeting – matters. Going to the functions outside of work – lunch, cocktails, chamber events, etc. – matters. If you’re really trying to be a team player – relationships with your teammates matter. Trying to advance in your career? Relationships ABSOLUTELY matter. So the next time you’re thinking – “why should I care about the people I work with, for what?” – remember it matters in a lot of ways you just might not realize you cared about before. Just a nugget for you to think about. Happy networking and team building!!